Okay — Brenda Lomeli is AMAZING. When I first heard her podcast "The Last 10," I assumed it was another weight loss podcast and thought 'Nope, not for me.' Little did I know, she dives into the juicy stuff: binge eating, emotional eating, and body image issues. She helps women end their struggle with food — for good. She's the wisest little buddha I've ever come across, and I know you'll love this interview.
Tell us a little bit about yourself!
I have the most adorable labradoodle puppy named Waffle. I love to travel! Ever since my first year out of college, I made the promise to myself that every year I would travel to at least one new country — and I have! My top 3 favorite places so far have been Peru, New Zealand, and Greece...so hard to pick just a few!
My husband and I plan to keep traveling even after baby Gianna arrives next spring. I'm first generation Mexican-American and the oldest of five sibs. I left my full-time job as an occupational therapist in March of 2017 to do my own thing coaching private clients/running my own business, and even though it felt pretty terrifying — it was the best decision ever and I haven't looked back since.
What was the inspiration behind The Last 10?
This turmoil and emotionally intense relationship with food and with my weight carried through to my late 20's. Everything from serious binging periods, cycles of weight gain/weight loss and even an eating disorder.
Even though there were so many dark periods, I always was determined to figure it out. I knew I was smart. I knew there had to be a way to end this struggle for myself and change this part of my life.
In hindsight, one of the best things about all of this is that I really became so personally familiar with how emotional, and how much suffering can be experienced as it relates to all of this.
It also created for me the opportunity to figure it out, and to truly become an expert in helping others figure it out for themselves. My own journey, and helping OTHER women with similar struggles was the inspiration for creating my podcast and program. I'm determined and committed to helping at least one million women end their own struggle.
What does wellness look like for you?
In fact, my decision to eat grilled veggies or to eat a delicious ice cream are both a representation of wellness — as long as those decisions are driven by love and peace.
There was a time in my life where all my decisions were driven by fear, self-criticism, and this belief that I was defective, not enough, and the need to be "fixed".
So wellness to me is about how I feel mentally and emotionally. As a by-product of caring for myself mentally and emotionally, I then make the best decisions for my body.
Most of the time this looks like nourishing foods, but not always ;) Either way, the decision comes from a place of love for myself.
On your podcast, you are constantly empowering women to recreate a healthier relationship with food. What advice do you have for someone who wants to start healing their relationship with their body and eating?
It's important to really understand that there is NO upside for anyone in beating themselves up. It's way more useful, effective (not to mention kind...) to instead be patient with yourself as you are setting out to change your relationship with yourself, with food, with eating, with your weight... or anything in your life for that matter.
My second piece of advice is: do NOT give up. No matter how long you've struggled with any of this (emotional eating/food/weight/etc) it is 100% possible to change it. And you are 100% deserving of a life where you are free of any shape or form of this struggle.
On that note, what do you love most about yourself?
I also love my relentlessness in anything that I pursue. I love that I can be understanding, loving... cry on every episode of "This is us," yet strong, unstoppable and limitless all at the same time.
Take us through a day in the life of Brenda. We want all the deets!
Now that it's winter, I'll usually crawl back in bed for a bit longer since it's warm and comfy. Waffle usually comes back in and jumps in bed with my husband and I.
My husband usually stays in bed longer than me. I can do cuddle time for about 10 minutes, and then I'm ready to pop out of bed and get my day started.
Waffle and I go for about a 30 min walk, and when we get back home I get to work (usually around 8 am or 8: 30 am). I work from home in my home office, so I don't have to go very far. :P
I typically start off by checking my inbox and also checking in with my clients. Each day of the week looks a little bit different in the business, some days are more focused on creating content (podcast/youtube), others are more focused on doing consultation calls or coaching calls with my clients.
Since I've been pregnant, deciding what I'm going to eat is in part determined by the severity of my nausea. (i.e. what I can keep down).
Because of this, my food choices lately haven't always been looking like my usual food choices pre-pregnancy, but my focus is to do the very best I can to nourish my body for myself and baby Gianna. I take it one day at a time.
I'll usually have lunch around noon when I get hungry and then get back to work until about 2:30 or so.
Once I'm done with my 'work' it's a great time for errands or important things like getting my brows done etc ;)
Evenings consist of either meeting up with friends, going over to my parents to visit, going out to dinner, taking a second walk with Waffle, and always some Netflix and watching good ol' Jimmy Fallon with my husband. I think that about sums up an average day for me these days...